You would realize that, at the latest, if you complained about something someone did “not right”. All of us are making hundreds of choices daily when interacting with ourselves or other people. We could choose to be rude, to be unreliable, to be ignorant. Yet instead, most of us most of the time decide to be respectful, to do our best, to be trustworthy. We learn and grow and we become damn good at things others rely on us to do. So how come in some social environments people recognize our shortcomings first and our gifts last? Do YOU tend to see the negative in people before you take note of the positive? Chances are you do.
Addressing what we don’t like about other people’s behaviour might result in them changing it. However – NOT addressing what we value about them might cause them to change exactly these things, too. Only if we acknowledge and appreciate them for it – verbally or through other ways – will they know what difference it makes to keep doing what they are doing.
Reflect with me on the hidden superpower of appreciation and how it can make a difference in your personal or professional life.