It’s for the spirituals, the seekers, the lost ones… not you. You are authentic, you live with integrity, don’t you?
But… do you?
Do ever catch yourself saying yes when you want to say no, or no when you actually want to say yes?
Do you ever feel your stomach clench at the thought of something but you choose to ignore it?
Do you value not hurting other people’s feelings more than being able to say the truth?
Do you think it would be uncomfortable if people at work knew certain things about your private life?
Do the pieces of information or opinions you share differ depending on the social circle?
Do you choose not to discuss certain topics even with your closest friends?
Do you immediately know an answer to the question “If I could choose freely, would I still work in this job?”, and yet you find excuses for why you are not leaving?
Do you feel like there is more to YOU than the labels your social environment attaches to you?
Do you feel confined by the norms around you and question whether this is how it needs to be?
Time to check in with yourself. Did you feel a gut response to any of these questions, a shy or emphatic “YES”?
The fact is, most of us live with some level of misalignment. And if this is a conscious choice, this is alright.
No one is forced to tell or live their truth. And adapting to our social environment, taking care of other people’s feelings, or choosing safety over adventures of self-expression is okay. There is no wrong or right. The question is:
Misalignment has a way of gnawing away at our happiness, our self-confidence, our physical and psychological wellbeing… You are the only one who gets to choose the right level of authenticity for you.
Having said that, let me be frank with you:
I am a people pleaser.
I am a harmony addict.
I am an adrenaline avoider.
I am an over thinker.
I am a hider.
I am an adapter.
I am not the most radically authentic person out there.
Which is exactly why my soul has been hooked on the topic of authenticity, or integrity, or however you want to call it. I crave NOT being uncomfortable to be seen in all my richness, contradictions, weirdness, imperfections, me-ness. And I love witnessing others show their colours and learning from them. Learning from them about boldness, fear, connection, love, possibilities, setbacks, fulfilment, and generosity.
I exist and I am not a rarity. This means that out there YOU exist. YOU, people who feel what I wrote here and who should be on either one side (or both) of the conversations we have on the podcast.
photo: Karolina Grabowska